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God Is My Matchmaker – The Prize

My Earthly Prize 14th February 2012 – Valentines’ Day. It is 8am and I have just dropped the kids in school. They were so excited this morning because they had all their gifts and cards ready for their classmates and teachers. Just the night before, while cuddling in bed, Ethan pretended to find a Valentines’ Day card on the bed and passed it to me. Of course, it was from him and in it he wrote: “Dear mom, happy Valentines’ Day! You are my sunshine. From: Ethan”. Sitting here at Starbucks, I cannot help but feel blessed to have them in my life. My thoughts also brought me back to the same Valentines’ Day in 2001. It was at the Meritus Mandarin Singapore Hotel (now known as the Mandarin Orchard Hotel). Derek and I were celebrating my birthday cum Valentine’s Day when in the midst of the dinner, he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. And of course, I said YES! After knowing Derek for 4 years and dating for …

God Is My Matchmaker – The Promise

It was the beginning of the year 1999 when I had just graduated from the City Harvest School of Theology, Singapore the year before. It happened in my annual retreat with God, where I made it my practice to seek God for the direction for the year ahead. Almost without fail, God would speak to me through an impression of what I could expect and He would give me a verse from the Bible (a rhema word, in Greek meaning the spoken word of God) that I could hang on to or rather, the Word would hold on to me. This Word would help me ride through the storms of that year and gave me strength to wait, to battle and eventually to see victory. In the year 1999, it was no different – God spoke. However, the word He gave me was not just for that year but it has set the course for my life and it became the very reason why this blog existed and how the WOW31 Ministry came about. The Encounter …

God Is My Matchmaker – The Preparation (Part 2)

Be the Right Woman Many single women claim that all the good men are taken or they are all married. At the same time, married women complain about how lousy they feel their husbands are. This confirms that there is no such thing as a perfect man. Or maybe there was one… There was a perfect man who met a perfect woman. After a perfect courtship they had a perfect wedding. Their life together was, of course, PERFECT! One snowy, stormy Christmas Eve, this perfect couple was driving along a winding road when they noticed someone at the roadside in distress. Being the perfect couple, they stopped to help. There stood Santa Claus with a huge bundle of toys. Not wanting to disappoint any children on the eve of Christmas, the perfect couple loaded Santa and his toys into their vehicle. Soon they were driving along, delivering the toys. Unfortunately, the driving conditions deteriorated and the perfect couple and Santa Claus had an accident. Only ONE of them survived the accident. Who was the survivor? THE …

God Is My Matchmaker – The Preparation (Part 1)

In my last posting, I wrote about how I engaged God as my matchmaker through a prayer. I knew that it would take time but like most women, I secretly wished that the doorbell would ring the next day and a tall, dark, handsome, rich and spiritual man would stand by the doorway with a T-shirt that says, “From God”. However, the Bible says in Isaiah 55:8, “For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways My ways”. God knows that unless He changes my character and renew my value system, I will not be able to see as He sees and choose as He chooses. Alexander Graham Bell has a quote that says, “Before anything else, preparation is the key to success.” We all want to be successful in our relationships. We want to be happy. We want to walk down the aisle and say,“I do”. We want to live happily ever after. But guess what? God wants to be successful too in bringing people together. He wants to be successful as …

God Is My Matchmaker – The Prayer

As women, there is an inherent desire in us to have companionship and to find that special someone; our life partner. During childhood, many of us would read fairy tales or watch cartoons and movies of how a princess is rescued, falls in love and is swept off her feet by her Prince Charming and they both lived happily ever after. And we often imagined ourselves as a princess who would one day fall in love and get married in the same way. Unfortunately, I am sure many of us have realized that reality could not be further away from the stories we have read or the movies we have watched. The challenge of finding a life partner, falling in love and eventually getting married can be daunting and often leaves many broken hearted and discouraged along the way. I too went through the process of spending my time and energy investing in several relationships, only to find them ending in failure. I remember one painful breakup from a relationship that lasted for more than …

Home for Christmas

The title for City Harvest Church Singapore Christmas production this year is “Home for Christmas”. This is certainly true for my family and I. My husband is finally going home to the United States for good and he is bringing along our three kids and I. He has spent the last 18 years ministering in Asia and serving in the most exciting and vibrant church in Singapore. This departure is definitely bitter sweet for him as it meant leaving behind people that he loves and a church that means so much to the both of us. It was in December 1995 that God spoke to him to come and serve alongside Pastor Kong Hee and his beautiful wife, Sun. And 16 years later in December 2011, who would have guessed that it is time to say goodbye. Nonetheless, having met and connected with this awesome couple – Pastor Kong and Sun, it has changed his life and that in turn mine. Yes, I am going back to the United States with my husband; to his …

Beginning My Journey

Welcome to my first blog entry and the launch of WOW31. My desire is that I can inspire women from my personal experiences of challenges and breakthroughs and to share about what the Lord has done in my life. I believe through sharing, I can help other women experience breakthroughs in the life as well. We all have a story and here is mine. I was born out of wedlock and my mother raised me up single-handedly. She suffered from major rejection and struggled with her identity and this had a major impact on my self-esteem, which affected my relationships with others and eventually my marriage I grew up struggling with a strong sense of abandonment as my father was physically absent in my life and my mother was emotionally unavailable for me. I grew up thinking that the odds were always against me and that propelled me to strive even harder in life to prove myself and to gain acceptance from people around. I studied hard and did well in school. I was eligible …